Challenge: Write something that involves an excuse. If you can't think of something involving an excuse, then you have no excuse because you should be posting and telling us what your excuse is.
I'd have to say some of the most "important" excuses I ever had to give were when I didn't want to go on a date with a guy.
Now, don't get me wrong. I am of the belief that everyone should be given a fair chance - I very rarely said no to a first or even second date.
But occasionally, I had good reasons not to go out with someone. He had no respect for me, or was drunk or drugged or disgusting, or something like that.
One guy, we'll call him Steve, asked me for a second date. After hearing my story for our first, maybe you'll understand why I told him I had other things going on. (Which I really did, thank goodness. :-))
Steve was a blind date - my sister set us up. I think she met him at Walmart and decided we would be perfect for each other. There were many times when I wondered if my sister really knew me. :-)
He had braces. Not usually a problem. He had a cold. Also not usually a problem. But combine those two with dinner in the braces, his disgusting snorting habit, and his desire to be really close to me - face pressed against mine - and you've got a recipe for Never Going Out Again. He liked doing that snorting thing right in my ear. Gross.
At the end of the date, when he asked me for a kiss, I took one look at his dinner-filled braces, remembered his cold, and said NO. Then made sure to be busy the next time he called.
My favorite excuse ever was the "I have to do laundry" one, which came up in a literal, I-have-to-do-laundry sense. I'd just gotten back from a ten-day trip to Toronto, and I honestly had NO CLEAN CLOTHES. Chris called and asked me out for lunch. He wanted to pick me up in thirty minutes. Yeah. I told him the truth. "I have to do laundry." He thought I was blowing him off, as any normal guy would. In fact, he vented to my brother about it. I made sure to call him and ask him out soon after, because he genuinely was a good guy.
Lest you think I'm one of those beat-around-the-bush type women, I was always upfront and honest. If I had an excuse to give for why I couldn't go out, I'd give it, then offer other times when I was available. Or, if I really didn't want to date him, I'd tell him I wasn't interested. I've got five brothers. I've seen how frustrating it is when a girl gives the run-around and expects the guy to figure things out.
It's time for me to end this post and get to bed. (Yeah, I know - yet another excuse. :-))










Comments: 23
Well done and I'm sure the this piece will be welcomed on the Wall of Last Dates on The Triple Name Club where it's now featured.
Are we talking about you? ;-)
Nice write, Andrea. We've all been there...done that. Been there, and been done like that, too. :)
I never had braces, though.
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And I totally agree about the Walmart thing! He was a cashier, my sister thought he was cute and gave him my number. I'm soooo glad I'm married now! She did things like that all the time. Creepy and totally not safe!
Yeah! For all you know, those people who "had to do laundry" really had to do it. :-)
The toughest one for me was a guy who was pleasant, handsome and friendly, but during the date, I actually found myself wishing I was home with a good book. It's nobody's fault, but how to explain this kindly? I lied. I said I was seeing someone else.